Identifying Your Blind Spots

When you can truly understand how others experience your behaviour, without defending or judging, you then have the ability to produce a breakthrough in your leadership and team. Everything starts with your self-awareness.
— Loretta Malandro - Fearless Leadership

What’s a ‘Blind Spot’?

  • Our communication behaviours are split into four different types.

  • The two most influential being Open Areas and Blind Spots.

  • Blind spot behaviour is just as influential, if not more, than the behaviours we are aware of.

Blind Spots: The Basics 

  • All of us will have blind spots – it’s is a normal state 

  • Our blind spots will contribute to our ability to speak up and/or to communicate with others 

  • Exploring our blind spots is an act of courage 

  • Sometimes our Blind Spots can trick us.  For example, we think we are taking a stand but actually we are taking an ‘I’m right’ attitude 

  • Our blind spots can block us from achieving and/or getting what we want 

  • Feedback is vital to addressing blind spots

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10 Common Blind Spots


Blind Spot: Going it Alone 

Examples

  • Not consulting others 

  • Not asking for help 

  • Not accepting help when offered 

  • Not including others in decisions  

  • Feeling like ‘only you’ can complete the task   

Potential Consequences

  • You become overworked 

  • Your decision making ability is limited to what you know 

  • Others experience you as ‘on edge’ without understanding or compassion 

  • Others resist or ignore decisions you make 

  • Others stop sharing information with you


Blind Spot: Not recognising your impact on others 

Potential Consequences

  • Your valid concerns are ignored in favour of the perception of your behaviour 

  • Others may avoid or placate you 

  • Others may agree with you, even if they believe you are wrong 

  • In the long term, others may never change the behaviour you are hoping to address 

Examples

  • Making comments or taking action that are perceived as a lot more negative than intended 

  • Judging others on their behaviour (how rude) but expecting to be judged on intention (I was just trying to sort out a problem) 

  • Being unaware when others are intimidated, insulted or concerned by our actions  


Blind Spot: Having an ‘I know or I’m right’ attitude 

Examples

  • Having an answer for everything

  • Not listening to others

  • Always having a reason why the ideas of others won’t work

  • Ignoring evidence that may challenge your views

  • Refusing to explore options or alternatives

Potential Consequences

  • Others may dismiss your opinions based on their perception of your lack of objectivity 

  • Others may avoid or placate you

  • Others may agree with you, even if they believe you are wrong 

  • Others may not share ideas with you for fear of being shot down  


Blind Spot: Blaming others or circumstances 

Examples

  • Avoiding personal responsibility 

  • Externalising the problem to another person or area (that’s  X ward’s mistake) 

  • Preferring to change others rather than ourselves – If they had done X properly this would never have happened 

  • Responding to every question/piece of feedback with ‘Yes But’ 

Potential Consequences

  • Others may cease to trust you based on their perception of a  lack of personal accountability 

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 

  • Others may avoid or placate you  

  • Others may hide concerns or mistakes based on fear 


Blind Spot: Treating commitments casually   

Examples

  • Not keeping commitments 

  • Not meeting deadlines 

  • Always maintaining an escape hatch 

  • Saying ‘I’ll try’ rather than ‘I will’

Potential Consequences

  • You may experience shame or a sense of failure 

  • Others may cease to trust you based on their perception of you as unreliable 

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 

  • Others may ignore your abilities when considering career pathways 


Blind Spot: Conspiring against others    

Examples

  • Being part of cliques 

  • Talking about concerns with others without raising the concerns directly with the person 

  • Talking about ‘they’ – they’ll never agree, if they want X they better do Y etc.  

  • Being passive aggressive – rolling eyes, not showing up for meetings etc.   

Potential Consequences

  • Your concerns aren’t heard  

  • Others may see you as ‘nasty’ rather than constructive 

  • Others may wonder what you say about them when they are not there 

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 


Blind Spot: Avoiding difficult conversations   

Potential Consequences

  • Saying things are fine when they’re not 

  • Working around a difficult person rather than trying to address behaviour 

  • Trying to say something so ‘tactfully’ that the message gets lost 

Potential Consequences

  • Behaviour you find difficult will continue to occur 

  • You may find yourself periodically ‘exploding’ and then feeling sorry 

  • You will waste a lot of time avoiding the conversation 

  • If you don’t talk it out you’ll act it out  


Blind Spot: Not Taking a Stand  

Examples

  • Having a belief that an action is right but not going forward through fear of what might happen 

  • Refusal to make a decision for fear of consequences 

  • Asking others to work around a problem rather than addressing it 

Potential Consequences

  • You may experience increased stress as you try to balance your thoughts and your actions 

  • Others may perceive you weak or neglectful 

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 


Blind Spot: Withholding emotional commitment  

Examples

  • Agreeing to a decision or action intellectually but not emotionally  

  • Just complying with decision 

  • Resisting in passive ways 

  • Going through the motions 

Potential Consequences

  • You may experience increased stress as you try to balance your thoughts and your actions 

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 

  • Others may see the difference between what you say and what you do and cease to trust you 


Blind Spot: Accepting Good enough 

Examples

  • Deciding that near enough is Ok 

  • Not willing to be part of change 

Potential Consequences

  • Others may perceive you as incompetent even when you have excellent knowledge/skills 

  • You may lose interest in your work and experience increased stress 


 

Source: Vital Smarts